It’s time to talk about dating preferences.
We’ve talked about interracial dating, and that triggered the thought to broaden our subject matter to generic dating preferences.
Obviously, you can tell by the title what my views on dating preferences are but allow me to expound on why that is.
Everyone is entitled to their own personality and lifestyle, and by default they also have the right to choose a partner that is aligned with that.
But I don’t want to merely focus on the deep stuff like morals and values because that’s not the controversial part of dating preferences.
Physical traits are.
So, let’s focus on that first.
I believe it is completely warranted for someone who is fit and in shape to prefer a significant other that is fit and in shape.
Body size has always sparked a lot of debate over the years, and while I don’t believe anyone should be shamed no matter what size they are, I can understand why someone would want partner with certain physical traits.
For really fit people, it’s not just about dieting and working out, it’s a lifestyle.
So, if your lifestyle is centered around health and fitness, you probably won’t be that aligned with someone who’s lifestyle differs from that.
You guys wouldn’t understand the other person’s perspective, making it more difficult to cohabitate.
Another controversial physical preference that we could use is sex.
If you are trying to remain celibate or abstinent, and your partner expects regular sexual activity, both of you have to right to not continue your pursuit of this union.
It’s a waist of time trying to argue with your significant other about whether y’all should or shouldn’t be sexually active and the parameters of what boundaries should be established.
Just let it go, find someone else willing to wait and allow your partner to find someone else who is okay with fulfilling that sexual desire.
Now, branching out into the deeper stuff.
Let’s talk about gender roles.
Despite it being 2020, there are still a lot of people, both men and women, who value the more traditional idea of gender roles.
There is nothing wrong with this.
Obviously though, the problem comes in when two people trying to date have different ideas.
If you as a woman don’t want to be a stay-at-home wife or even have kids at all, don’t start dating a guy who wants the white-picket fence lifestyle.
And vice versa.
Stop wasting time trying to change the core being of your partner and find someone else who you are equally yoked with.
When it comes to one’s career.
We know that you don’t have to work in the same field to have a successful relationship, in fact most people don’t.
However, your significant other needs to have some sort of trait that allows them to emphasize with your work life because what you do for a living does play a huge role in the type of life that you lead.
If you’re an entrepreneur, for example.
Your partner doesn’t have to be an entrepreneur to be aligned with your purpose, but they do need to have the capacity to understand that your job requires an uncommon level of attention with varying hours.
These are just a few examples of different controversial preferences that exist, and they are all valid.
However.
I would be remiss if I didn’t talk about the hypocritical expectations within dating preferences.
You can’t be out of shape and only want a fit partner.
You can’t practice abstinence and date a guy who expects sex all the time.
You can’t get with a submissive partner and then complain that they’re too timid.
You can’t be an entrepreneur and date someone who doesn’t understand that your work hours exceed 9-5.
That’s wack, don’t do that.
Moral of the story?
Have your preferences, but make sure you hold yourself to the same standards.
And that’s it, and that’s all.
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Very insightful! #Dontsettle